My Purposeful Reflection

While watching a YouTube video last night, I heard an Internet Marketer express his vision in a way that made me think of a recent discussion with guests on my radio show. (In case you didn’t know, I am host of BOLD TALK BUSINESS RADIO, which airs on AM 1300 WMEL in Central Florida and streams worldwide at www.1300wmel.com.)

YouTuber and Internet marketer to the music community, Lee Beattie had said in his online video, “My Why is to educate a macro community that funds a micro community that feeds a community. His words summed up the conversation a small group of us began in the conference room at WMEL Radio after our 03.28.15 show.

My own mission is to educate and inspire people to acknowledge their own potential for growth, success and satisfaction in life and work. Over my life, I have learned that outer success is deeply linked with people’s view of themselves and the world around them.

Almost 15 years ago, I became conscious of my desire to help people feel good about who they are and what they do, regardless of their circumstances. My work since has centered on sharing tools for making that happen. Just as art triggers emotions because the creator’s expression mirrors an emotional landscape and responds to the artist’s sense of the communities around them, the same can be said of technical innovators who beat to the drum of community and consumer needs. Simply put, thoughts and beliefs fuel our feelings and our feelings influence what we do. It helps to be conscious of how that works. My goal is to help people become more mindful of thoughts and feelings so they develop the kind of inner mastery that empowers their outer success.

During my post-radio-show conversation with investments attorney Russell Weigel (author of Capital for Keeps: Limit Litigation Risk While Raising Capital and Preston Tesvich, co-developer of Hiro (a Bluetooth beacon for finding lost keys) and director of business development for JayCon Systems, I suggested the importance of encouraging critical thinking when divergent groups try to collaborate. Over the years, I’ve worked on many committees comprising diverse viewpoints, varying group dynamics, and varying degrees of group success. My observations show that the key predictors of success have largely been shared sense of purpose, agreement on strategy and people committed to the heavy lifting. Powerful change requires real work. That work also requires cultivation of inner and outer resources for success, especially what I call conscious communication—clear, consistent, focused, intentional communication—that leads to desired win-win outcomes.

If you are considering a collaborative venture—a business or personal relationship, an investment, or a community partnership—start by exploring where and how your purpose, resources, connections, and approach to life intersect. Also understand that in a collaboration, each party must bring valuable resources to the table. Consider the value you bring and the value you expect from others. That will help you determine the best way to collaborate for win-win-win outcomes. Also be sure that the projects you decide to work on make sense in the ecology of your own life and business. Time and money invested are limited commodities.

A Few Thoughts on Friendship

Enjoy these thoughts on friendship. They come from a little book titled, Friendship, a Special Gift for a Special Friend, published by Parragon. A friend gave it to me for my birthday.

“The bird: a nest. The spider: a web. The human: friendship.”
— William Blake, British poet

“A true friend is someone who thinks you are a good egg, even though he knows that you are slightly cracked.”
—Bernard Meltzer, radio host

“Few delights can equal the mere presence of someone we utterly trust.”
— George MacDonald, British author and poet

“True friendship comes when silence between two people is comfortable.”
— Dave Tyson Gentry, author

“A friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.”
— Unknown

“What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies.”
— Aristotle, Greek philosopher

I am grateful every day for my friends.

Never Quit! Success May Be Just a Step Away

“The winners in life think constantly in terms of I can, I will and I am. Losers, on the other hand, concentrate their waking thoughts on what they should have or would have done or what they can’t do.” — Denis Waitley

What I love about this quote is the reminder that the language we use reflects what we think, believe and do. The words “I can” demonstrate positive inner beliefs, confidence and ability. The words “I will” express intent for behavior as yet undone. The words “I am (actually doing) …” speak to action, which is where the power lies.

Listen to yourself when you speak. Do your words (“I can’t … I should have… would have… could have” reflect unsatisfying outcomes of the past? Are you dragging along beliefs that lack of success in the past means lack of success in the future? If you want to achieve more than you have to date, make an effort to live in action moments. Make each of those moments count by fostering positive thoughts, then reinforcing your positive thoughts with small (or large) action steps that will lead you to your goal.

When I was a child, I loved visiting my father at his law  office and seeing him behind his big old wooden desk. He seemed so powerful and accomplished. On his desk, he kept a pile of post cards with the poem, “Never Quit.”  The cards were promotions for his friend’s Congressional campaign. To this day, I hear my dad’s voice in my head reciting that poem from memory for my sister and I.  I am grateful that his voice encouraged us and stays with us still. My dad’s attitude helped us learn how to be bold in life and work. He helped us learn to do instead of promise. He helped us believe that we could do anything if we put in the right effort.

When you feel like it is easier to give up than keep going, try reciting the words of Never Quit. Here they are:

Never Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow–
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor’s cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out–
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit–
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.
Author unknown

This poem may not be enough to change your life or trigger your success. If you need extra help, pay attention to the triggers that lead to discouragement and feelings of inadequacy. Challenge the words and beliefs underlying those feelings. Give yourself permission to believe in you and to learn what you need to know to reach your goals. Then pat yourself on your heart for not giving up! It’s reason to celebrate. You have everything you need tucked away inside you. Open yourself to the possibilities of success and you’ll be amazed at what you can accomplish.

“Throw Off the Bowlines, Sail Away from Safe Harbor”

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore, Dream, Discover.” – Mark Twain

What do you dream about? What inspires you to get out of bed every day? What gifts and bits of wisdom do you pray for at night or upon waking?

Sometimes setting a new course starts with something as simple as a decision to do it. Once you’ve decided to go for it, though, you’ll need to put some muscle behind it. Start by making an action plan. List the steps you’ll need to take to change your life and live the life of your dreams. Then, commit to following your heart.

What is one thing you can do today to put yourself on the path to your dreams?

Thoughts are Things. Think Positive!

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. Thoughts are things! And powerful things at that. When mixed with definiteness of purpose, and burning desire, thoughts can be translated into riches.”— Napoleon Hill

Several years ago, my daughter Suzanne introduced me to the video, “What the Bleep Do We Know?” It featured luminaries in neuroscience, neurolinguistics and quantum physics who shared research and perspectives on the power of thought. In essence, these scientists and gurus asserted that thoughts are physical, electro-chemical transmissions that follow specific pathways in the brain in specific ways. Thinking a thought over and over can reinforce the neural pathway; as a result, thoughts can surface faster and faster, as can the emotional and physiological responses associate with them.

When I first watched the video — a while before Lisa Nichols et. al., authored The Secret — I was already convinced that thoughts are the key to mind power. Years later, I decided to focus on sharing “all good thoughts” whenever possible and to practice reinforcing my own neural network for enhanced positivity.

You can try it too, and choose positive thoughts whenever you want. Start by  becoming more mindful of your thoughts and feelings. Try to notice what you are feeling in a given moment. When you notice a feeling, such as sadness, joy, frustration, stress, worry or anger, ask yourself what that feeling is trying to tell you. Also consider how your thoughts might be influencing your feeling(s). Then pick a different, more positive feeling or thought that you would like better. Think about what that feeling looks like, feels like and sounds like in your mind. Get the senses of the feeling you want. Make them feel real to you.

Changing your feelings takes time and practice, but like thoughts, when the effort is repeated over and over, the effects of choosing more positive thoughts can call up and speed up more positive feelings. Let me know how it goes for you. Email me personally at Donna@BoldMarketingSolutions.com. Or leave me a reply on this blog. I would love to hear from you.

 

 

Take a Chance and Go for What You Want

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Entrepreneurial icon, Debbie Fields Rose, founder of Mrs. Field’s Cookies, said, “The important thing is not being afraid to take a chance. Remember, the greatest failure is to not try. Once you find something you love to do, be the best at doing it.”

According to the Website DamselsinDistress.com, “Debbi’s success is significant, given that she received significant discouragement from family and friends, many of whom told her that she had no business starting her own company. She had no formal education to speak of, no money of her own to start the business with no product except cookies (…). At the age of 20, Debbi ignored the criticism and pushed forward to open a store in Palo Alto that would eventually be a $450 million leader of freshly-baked cookies.”

I agree with Debbi. Take the steps you want to take in life. Listen to your inner cheerleader instead of drudges who pull you down. Commit to learning what you need to know to succeed. Remember, there really is no failure, only failure to learn the right next step. Stay on a continuous learning path to discover answers to your questions and find the resources you need to get where you want to go. Ask for help when you need to and go, go, go!